She's gone...

[Righteous Indignation]

Some of you may have heard a friend of mine was dying from cancer... well, sadly, the Grim Reaper made his call for her yesterday. We are very saddened at this loss, but we knew it would happen any day now because she has had on-off pain relapses from time to time - her husband and son were recently on vacation in France in order to have a break but they had to come home early because she had another relapse, so we could kinda sense the Reaper was due to make his call any day now... and sadly, yesterday this sad suspicion was confirmed. May my friend rest in peace

We don't yet know when the funeral may be but unless I am otherwise engaged I plan to attend, also I don't have much suitable black attire to wear...

[Mad Cat]

im sorry to hear that Naz , hope everyone can handle the loss.

[wildgoose]

awwww stay strong naz

[Righteous Indignation]

Thank you very much, guys. BYWInsaniac, if you're reading I thank you too...

A date has been set for the funeral, it's on Thursday at a local crematorium, in fact the same one where my Great Aunt Nora was cremated when she died from natural causes in 1993 (so my mom's gonna try and find the spot where her ashes were spread so I can perhaps pay my respects to her too?).

[WatsonSword]

Rants have entered my mind because of this and they won’t leave until I write them down. I don’t know if you’ll find my words caring or callous, mainly because I’m not sure of that myself.

I’ve seen more than one death in my -thusfar- brief lifetime, and I’ve never felt comfortable mentioning it on forums, and the reason is that I’ve never liked making people feel the need to offer their insights on things for which they have no insight.
But that statement comes only from my bias on the subject, as I know all that’s expected of me is to offer a simple condolence, and others fin it so easy to do that. But as hard as I‘ve ever tried, it’s something I’ve never been able to do.
To me, a simple condolence for such a life-altering event as the death of someone close to you has always made me cringe, both in giving and receiving it. To me, such a thing cheapens the experience into a kind of morbid humor, as if I were on the outside watching it as a sitcom.

What should I say?
I knew a man who died of cancer. To his family it was an earth-shattering, life-shattering, insurmountable crisis.
I also knew a woman who died of cancer. To her family, the death was a relief, a relief that the ordeal was finally over.

So what should I say? Should I offer a simple condolence? A prayer (hardly any use since I’m not religious)? As much as I try I can’t bring myself to do that. The camp factor would be too great, for me at least. Death deserves something more than that.
Unfortunately, in a circumstance for which I have no insight, more doesn’t exist.

~WatsonSword

[Razgriz aka Dahaka]

Well, I didn't know her, but I'm sure that she was a great friend to you Naz. I send you my condolences and I will keep your friend in my prayers. But just remember this quote that a student from my school once said before he died, "I'm not leaving, I'm just changing residences". I'm not sure if this applies to you since its a religious thing, but rest assured that your friends' soul could be in a much better place than the world we live in now. Again, condolences to you, her friends and her family.

[sonicheroes4ever]

Losing a friend and loved one is very hard indeed. You have my condolences.